As I was watching
Family Jewels tonight, with Gene and Shannon going thru marriage boot
camp. The counselor asked Gene does he love himself enough to forgive
his father. This brought back thoughts when I was so angry at my own
father that the thought of him would actually cause me to feel rage,
that I could actually cause physical harm to him. I saw red.
The counselor made a significant point....If you want to live a balanced life, free of bitterness you have to learn to forgive. You have to do it for yourself. You have to love yourself. And that come from forgiveness. As hard as it is, it must be full forgiveness not half way.
I didn't realize it at it at the time, what I was doing for myself. When I wrote the letter that was never going to be sent to my father. That was the day that I let go all my bitterness and became a full person. I knew that forgiving someone allowed you to move on, but after listening to the counselor talk to Gene and watch Gene go thru his forgiveness of his father, it brought it more to light how important it is to forgive. You are giving yourself a gift in this act.
Your being changes, you are balanced, you are loving yourself. When you give yourself that ultimate gift, you are loving yourself.
And as Gene learned in his marriage boot camp, loving himself enough to forgive his father, allowed him to move past those feelings and to give himself more fully to Shannon.
I don't know what the future holds for Gene and Shannon but I know allowing myself and loving myself enough to forgive my father has allowed me to be more open about my own feelings. I no longer feel anger towards my father. Im at peace and I know that I have much to offer those around me for it. And if it worked for me how can it not work for Gene and Shannon or everyone else that takes that step of forgiveness.
I have faced many other obstacles since that time, including finally stop fighting the losing battle of my hair. I believe if I hadnt wrote that letter of forgiveness to my father, the other obstacles would have been that much more difficult.
The counselor made a significant point....If you want to live a balanced life, free of bitterness you have to learn to forgive. You have to do it for yourself. You have to love yourself. And that come from forgiveness. As hard as it is, it must be full forgiveness not half way.
I didn't realize it at it at the time, what I was doing for myself. When I wrote the letter that was never going to be sent to my father. That was the day that I let go all my bitterness and became a full person. I knew that forgiving someone allowed you to move on, but after listening to the counselor talk to Gene and watch Gene go thru his forgiveness of his father, it brought it more to light how important it is to forgive. You are giving yourself a gift in this act.
Your being changes, you are balanced, you are loving yourself. When you give yourself that ultimate gift, you are loving yourself.
And as Gene learned in his marriage boot camp, loving himself enough to forgive his father, allowed him to move past those feelings and to give himself more fully to Shannon.
I don't know what the future holds for Gene and Shannon but I know allowing myself and loving myself enough to forgive my father has allowed me to be more open about my own feelings. I no longer feel anger towards my father. Im at peace and I know that I have much to offer those around me for it. And if it worked for me how can it not work for Gene and Shannon or everyone else that takes that step of forgiveness.
I have faced many other obstacles since that time, including finally stop fighting the losing battle of my hair. I believe if I hadnt wrote that letter of forgiveness to my father, the other obstacles would have been that much more difficult.
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