Never sell
your saddle. I remember seeing this meme
on social media once: don’t sell your saddle and there was something that
hit me deep; a deep truth that went beyond the saddle itself.
“Don’t sell
your saddle, Don’t give up on your dreams.
Take time to see them through, there is no magic recipe, hard work makes
them come true….”
My saddle is
currently sitting in Canada under my mom’s supervision. It’s been sitting there since I made the move
8 years ago to Australia; but one day I will have it with me again.
I remember
when I bought my saddle; a Bob’s Custom Duane Latimer reining saddle. I went through a few different saddles over
the years till I got this one and not only was it a comfortable ride but most
importantly it fit my horse Ares.
And that is
where this post is headed; my horses. As
most little girls I was in love with horses; seeing them afar, having my own
imaginary horses, getting older and having the occasional ride on my mom’s or
oma’s horse and then there was the time I entered the show pen and I was
hooked. As the years went by that love with this animal grew into something
that even now, I have difficulties describing. The best way to describe it is a
deep-down blood tie; and in the years since moving to Australia I mourn the loss of the daily interaction I had with my horses.
I say horses
but I actually only owned 2 horses but I worked with and rode many more. My home in Canada was a boarding stable that
homed 100s of horses that I would help take care of. They were mine, in the respects that I
treated them as if I actually owned them aswell as their actually owners
I bought my
first horse, a yearling filly Suzie from a PMU ranch when I was 20years. If you don’t know what a PMU ranch is, well
that’s simple, Pregnant Mares Urine.
These are the places that collected the urine to make our birth control
pills. It was always understood, and
maybe its still today, but a lot of these ranches didn’t care about the animals
they were breeding, the only concern was the end product. But there are some ranches that saw the
benefit of breeding registered horses of decent bloodlines that way not only did they
have an end product but they also had horses that were more sellable. And that was what my little filly was. She was a registered Quarter Horse with good
decent working cow bloodlines. And with
some research into her breeding, she had some racing blood too. Specifically, she was a descendant of Go Man
Go; a red roan stallion known for his speed and attitude. My Suzie definitely
had attitude.
From the day
I brought her home she showed her attitude but she also showed an amazing
wiliness to please; her way. She taught
me so much in her life from the first day I put her in the round pen, to the
first step in the stirrup, the show pen, the trail rides and to the day I had
to say goodbye to her.
She was
never meant for the reining pen; she didn’t have the breeding or the skill
level to be highly competitive but the one thing she had was heart and there
was never a time that she didn’t put her whole heart into what was asked. She also fought you just as passionately;
when she didn’t want to do something. I
remember one time at a riding clinic Suzie pitched a fit, I learned over the
years the best thing to do was not to fight back but let her run it out and so
we did, circle after circle till she was tired enough to listen. Much like a
parent watching their child stomp and kick, sometimes you just have to sit back
and let them stomp it out. That race
blood in her always worked against both of us as it took so much to wear her
out and she only got fitter in the process.
Afterwards the trainer came up to me and mentioned how well I had
handled the situation. Patience is what she taught me more than anything, and
compassion to recognise when something is not going the way you want it to at
that moment, to remember that it is more than just me in this.
Suzie taught
me to have trust and faith and what it means when another puts their faith and
trust in you. We went for many trail
rides and she would always walk the path I pointed her to. Even when one day that path led as to a water
hole. She walked right into the water
even when the mud surrounding us came up to her knees. She had to jump out to release herself out of
the mud which unseated me right into that water hole. I remember picking myself up soaking wet and
also struggling out of the mud laughing and Suzie just standing there waiting
for me. Then there was the time we went
for a trail ride down by the river with some other riders. Most horses won’t go willingly into water but
not Suzie, she enjoyed water as much as I did. We were all standing in a calm
part of the river letting the horses have a drink and cool off. Suzie decided this was a good time to play in
the water splashing every person and every horse near us and she almost went
down for a roll. Make good decisions because you don’t know who will follow
you.
We shared so
many highs, laughter and tears of joy, but with the highs there was some deep
lows. And in those lows Suzie showed her
heart just as strongly. In my later
twenties I went through a period of suicidal depression. And I leaned into Suzie more than anything or
anyone else. There were days I would
just sit in her stall and she in return would stand blocking the doorway with
her head over me. Much like a mare over
her foal, others in the barn would be calling my name looking for me but with
Suzie blocking the stall entrance no one knew where I was and I felt safe.
As she took
care of me during those dark days, in turn I was there for her on her darkest.
It was a wet snowy February when I got the call that Suzie was colicking. Anyone having been around horses for anytime
knows when a horse colics it may pass uneventfully or turn into a shit show
fast. And that was what happened that
day. By the time the vet showed up she
didn’t even look like my horse anymore, her heartrate had spiked so high that
the vet was concerned that she wouldn’t be able to stand. He gave her a
cocktail of pain reliver just to bring down her heartrate to assess the
situation. But as soon as the cocktail
kicked in, she collapsed. I remember going down with her in the cold mud; and
when I stood up, she stood up. She went down 2 more times before not only my
mom but the vet had said that I was going to have to lay in the mud with her
just so she would lay still. And I did
that for her. I still remember that day
clearly. We were going to have to say goodbye
and I was going to do that laying in the February mud holding my Suzie
RIP Suzie
June 1994 – February 2004
Anyone that
has owned an animal/pet/fur baby knows that we will most likely outlive
them. It is our duty and honour to be
there for them during their darkest time, just as they have always been there
for us.
That was one
of my hardest days, even today, that day marks a dark day incomparable. As this post started: its more than a love,
it’s a deep blood tie; and on that day I went down to the barn that night and
climbed on the back of my gelding.
My gelding
Ares; he was the son from the mare my mom owned. He was my next project, to be trained, shown
and potentially sold with profits split between mom and myself. But as this little gelding grew up, he was
showing more promise in the show pen and a more willingness to try. And as it was he ended up being the only
horse I had after Suzie.
Ares showed
more than even I gave him credit with for so many years. I always considered him my little unbroke
pony. As a 2-year-old he was tiny and he
spent a lot of time in pasture just growing up; but that little pony grew up to
be a true quarter horse size; in height and size. And as much as I thought of him a work in
progress, he proved himself time over time just how much he knew, how much try he had and how much
he could be trusted.
During one
horse show where I shared showing with him, with my best friend’s young
son. We switch saddles back and forth,
his youth saddle with stirrups barely wrapping around Ares’ belly and my own
reining saddle. Ares never faulter for
either one of us that day. He did everything asked of him and more. He was also
the horse that you can jump on bareback anytime with just a halter and
ride. He went where you wanted to go
with no complaints and gave as much heart.
Of all the
horses I have ridden I never experienced a horse with such a high work
ethic to please. If horses could be known with
such, but he did. Even out on pasture
with grass up to his belly and a field of other horses; if I came to the gate
and whistle for him, he would come running.
He also showed this work ethic when one time just before a show I had
the farrier come out, I knew the shoes looked tight but I was told by everyone
that everything was fine. Well, the day
of the show, loading him on the trailer he was sore and it didn’t change at the
show either. I even had the show’s
farrier check his shoes; it was mentioned to just to walk him and he never did
argue, where I lead, he followed. Wasn’t
till we got home and I had the shoes pulled thinking that was our show season
finished that Ares walked completely sound.
Trust your instincts.
The year
before I moved to Australia, Ares and I had our final show and he gave me his
best to that date with our highest score.
He has now moved on to retirement with my mom. After my mom having to say goodbye to Ares’
mom, Ares went to live with her, while I moved to Australia. Saying goodbye to Suzie was difficult but
saying goodbye to Ares was nearly as hard. Knowing that we were parting it felt
like a part of me was being ripped away. After 8 years I have yet to mend that
rip but I have understood it as grief.
Grief never goes away, especially when that source comes from a deep
internal spot within but that grief changes, it molds around you. So, you never forget all the moments and
memories that you have learned, felt and was brought into your life. Horses are imbedded in my blood and in my
soul; it in part makes me who I am.
So, NO I
will never sell my saddle, for it’s a part of me, like the horses that ride
under it. Its part of the dream I got to live and experience, and the dream
that I will never let go of.